By Jacquie Miller, Corporate Director of Sales & Marketing, UMC
Making the decision to move into Pitman Manor was a meaningful and deeply personal journey for Elaine Scheetz. Though she felt some understandable nerves at first, her faith grounded her every step of the way. When she first toured Pitman Manor in September 2016, she chose to settle in a nearby condo instead — yet she never drifted far. Elaine continued engaging with the Pitman Manor community, attending events, enjoying lectures, and visiting friends who already called it home. Nearly a decade later, following some health challenges and much reflection, she asked, “God, what do you want me to do?” The answer became unmistakably clear. In March 2025, Elaine moved confidently into her new apartment — not looking back but looking ahead to the abundant life and new connections waiting for her at Pitman Manor.
For those preparing for a similar transition, Elaine shares tips she’s learned that might help new residents settle in and truly feel at home.
1. Say Yes to Invitations (Even If You’re Unsure)
When I first arrived, I was invited to a coffee social. I almost didn’t go because I didn’t know anyone! But I pushed myself to attend, and I’m so glad I did. That one event introduced me to two people who are now good friends. The beauty of that first step was that I reconnected with a few women I had attended church with years before.
Tip: Attend at least one event per week when you first move in. Whether it’s bingo, a fitness class or gardening group, showing up is the first step to feeling connected.
2. Personalize Your Space
Your new apartment should feel like you. I brought my favorite armchair, family photos, and some of my glass figurines that I love. These little touches made my new place feel like home.
Tip: Don’t be afraid to decorate with things that bring you joy. It’s a great conversation starter when neighbors drop by!
3. Be Curious About Others
Everyone here has a story. I’ve met so many interesting people at Pitman Manor. Asking questions and showing interest in others is a wonderful way to build friendships.
Tip: Start with simple questions like, “What brought you here?” or “Have you tried the art class yet?”
4. Volunteer or Join a Committee
Getting involved gave me a sense of purpose. I joined nearly everything. I can now help new residents feel at ease—just like others did for me.
Tip: Asking about ways to help is also a great way to meet people and feel useful.
5. Keep an Open Mind
Not everything will be perfect. There might be days when you feel lonely or overwhelmed. That’s okay. Give yourself time to adjust, and don’t hesitate to talk to staff or fellow residents about how you’re feeling. While it's important to go to the dining room for meals, it's ok to have lunch or dinner alone in your apartment from time to time. Just not too often!
Tip: Taking daily walks and chatting with neighbors really helps to meet new friends and keep in shape!
6. Keep Up with Life Outside of the Community
The church I attend, First Presbyterian Church of Pitman, continues to be a big part of my life. As a matter of fact, I was preparing to attend a Women's Circle Luncheon at church, and I needed to bring a dessert with me. I asked Chef Rich of Pitman Manor if he had something I could take with me. He had recently made a French Chocolate Silk Pie that was absolutely delicious. I mentioned how good it was, and he offered to make me one! It was the hit of the luncheon! Everyone enjoyed it. Chef Rich also invited me into his kitchen for a tour. He went out of his way to make me feel special.
Tip: Be sure to continue with the activities or volunteer organizations you are connected to outside of the community. It’s ok to make new friends and keep connected to your current friends.
Final Thoughts
Moving into a senior living community isn’t the end of your independence; it’s a new kind of freedom. You’re surrounded by people who understand your journey, and there’s a whole world of connection waiting just outside your door. Remember how important it is to smile and introduce yourself to new residents. Shake hands and welcome them into your community.
So, take a deep breath, smile at your neighbors, and remember: the best is yet to come!
Additional Tips from UMC Teammates & Residents on Making New Friends in Senior Living
• “Select a welcoming community. If you are looking for hospitality, comfort, and safety, this is the best place to be!”
• “We put a framed sign on the ledge outside of my mom’s apartment door to introduce herself and welcome new friends to stop and say hello.”
• “We have welcome greeters who will make you feel at home, show you around the community, and invite you to lunch.”
• “Remember you’re not just moving to a new place – you’re becoming part of a community that cares.”
• “Exercise classes are very popular. Even if you don’t think you like exercising at first, it becomes a social thing that you’ll look forward to.”
• “There are so many excursions and activities we can attend. That’s a great way to meet people.”
• “Wave and say hello to everyone you pass in the hallway.”
• “Puzzles are very popular in our communities. You can sit down, contribute a few pieces, and engage in casual conversation with other residents.”
• “Acknowledge that any move is difficult and it can take a while to feel fully ‘at home,’ but then one day, it’ll just happen.”
• “If you have a pet or you like animals and have someone on your floor with a pet, that’s a very good conversation starter.”
